My father was an elder and pioneer when I was younger, my mom was a pioneer also. We moved around a lot to "where the need was greater", this meant never having longstanding friends or returning to the same school after summer break. We usually lived in a icky apartment or a trailer. My Dad helped form a new congregation in a rural area and my father has an affair with a much older woman. No one was disfellowshipped and my father gave the memorial talk the night before we left town ( so much for spiritual direction) My mom being the very whiny dependent type didn't leave him but held it against him. We moved again and again but this time my dad had quit pioneering and we made many career moves, all the time life was miserable because my mom fought with him everyday and continued to accuse him of affairs, I was just a kid and did not know what to think, he was still an elder.
Finally my mom became completely convinced he was having an affair, I was 14 years old. So we leave that state for our home state to live with relatives. This was my 11th school. My father was disfellowshipped and the letter was read in 3 congregations that I know of, my mother thought it would character building to sit through all three announcements, at that time they announced the sin also. Imagine sitting through that 3 times at age 14 with all those "christians " turning around to stare right at you! I never saw my father again for 30 yrs, I tried to prove what a good little witness I was by not trying to contact him. His own father never spoke to him again!
Well my mom wasn't going to be able to handle being alone for very long. Her divorce was final in January and she was remarried in September, to the biggest asshole of all time (elder of course). He has made everyone's life that is around him a living hell (including his own children who he has not laid eyes on in over a decade), but my mother adores him because he is not a cheater and by her own admission doesn't have to work anymore. I endured that man until 3 years ago when I walked out of the Kingdom Hall and never went back. I have not spoken to him or my mother in almost a year now. He is bordering on sociopathic, the relationship is ripped forever by the things he has done.
I did finally find my father, after 30yrs apart. He is 68 years old remarried, never had any more children just living life. Can't really ever be the same, it is a weird relationship he would like more but I just can't give it. He read CoC when it came out, he had doubts when 1975 came and went, he got himself out, at the price of his entire family, but didn't try very hard to get me out! Unforgivable
Fathers? With the exception of my husband, have not been so great for me.
NMKA